How to Deal with Heated Arguments
You will have noticed by now how hard it is for people to talk without it turning into an argument or even a fight. You shall readily see this not just on social media, but also when people gather for festivities. These issues are best seen when we engage in conversations. The words we use carry a lot of weight, more so now than ever before.
This has made it hard to have easier conversations. There are more of us shying away from holding a conversation. But eventually, we will have to speak. We should not forget how wonderful it can be to talk amongst each other. This calls for us to learn more about ways to handle conversations even when they become difficult and opposing to your views.
It is important that we all focused on eliminating the idea that we have to take an extreme position in each discussion. Most topics can easily be turned into such a format that breeds fights. You can counter that escalation by not taking a particular side. Alternatively, you can ask the other party to also refrain from making the situation worse. While this may be difficult, there are some techniques that can help you manage the task.
You need to learn to take a breath before speaking. Keep practicing this each time you find yourself in a conversation that has the potential to escalate. You need to wait your turn then till the other party is done speaking. Confirm if they are done before speaking. Breathing helps you take away the bite in your words, and keeps your presentation objective.
You need to get into the habit of asking more questions. Questions lead to more productive discussions, and play to the vain side of the other person. This allows you to collect your thoughts as well. You can get the other party also to see things more deeply. This way, both of you have something substantial to talk about, and more meaningful conclusions to reach at the end of it. As it goes on; emotions shall continue to dwindle. You can ask questions that get them to explain their point further, or to give illustrations of what they are saying. These questions show your genuine interest to learn more and come across as not having emotions.
You need to conclude the conversation in agreement then. Arguments will leave people on a rough territory. This is why you need to take a difficult conversation and turn it into a more palatable one. You can point out the things both parties agree on and focus on those as you draw to a close.
The tips shared here are best executed when you are actively listening to what is being said, and remain present.